why SUPERMOM is a title you should AVOID AT ALL COSTS

LET'S BE CLEAR: SUPERMOM IS A TITLE TO 

AVOID, 

NOT COVET

...I personally believe "Supermom" is a term coined by men to keep women caring for the kids, caring for the household, caring for them, and at the same time working just as much as them...

The financial market has made it virtually impossible to raise a household off one income, so more women are in the workforce than this nation has ever seen. That trend quickly picked up its pace, and the HuffingtonPost reported that this year, for every 2 Bachelors degree a man earns, 3 women will earn the same.

….yet at the same time, the expectation that women will still take care of the household (as if they weren’t working) still remains. This nation’s culture of the women taking care of households has yet to shift, if at all. YET more than ever before, we are working as many hours (if not more) than our male counterparts. The culture of the female nurturer will probably never go away...we are still expected to attend all teacher conferences, birthday parties (plan them, go to them, cater them), all family events, clean/cook/shop for the household and all its members….and at the same time we still work 40 hours per week.

...if mom doesn’t show up to second-cousin’s fifth birthday party, everyone wants to know where she is. If dad doesn’t come….well...nobody cares, and they probably all assume he’s busy working, or hanging out with the guys, because it’s the weekend, and he’s allowed to “rest” since he’s had a tough week at work.

People say “men take care of women”....but do they, really? Sure, they might provide, but do they “take care” of women, like they did in the old days, way back when we didn't go to work, or have careers of our own--way back when one income was sufficient to raise a family of 6, or 7, or 8?

Let’s look at some data:

• BusinessWeek Magazine  reported that 23% of women make more than their husbands
• Time magazine reported that women under 30 make more than men in every single city in the United States (except for 3).
• “The majority of women will out-earn their husbands in the next generation”
• 9 years ago 2% of men received alimony in a divorce, that figure has quadrupled this past year, and is continuing to rise.
• more women than ever before are assuming managerial roles at work, many are CEOs (PepsiCo, Yahoo, Ebay, to name a few)

RECENTLY,


The CEO of PepsiCo admitted in an interview earlier this year in JULY 2014 that sparked many interests, and made headlines in many news reports, including Forbes. One even commented that she may have given "the interview of the year"...why? Well, this is what she said:

" I don't think women can have it all. I just don't think so. We pretend we have it all. We pretend we can have it all... Every day you have to make a decision about whether you are going to be a wife or a mother, in fact many times during the day you have to make those decisions... We plan our lives meticulously so we can be decent parents. But if you ask our daughters, I'm not sure they will say that I've been a good mom. I'm not sure. [Nooyi via The Atlantic] "

There are men out there who play equal roles with their wives and take equal part in taking care of household duties (other than the financial duties), and I commend those men, and I envy those women who have found such partnership. However this is scarce....and sometimes it's not entirely their fault.....it was the way these men were raised, it was the way their parents did it. It is up to us, as women, to educate and demand from our husbands and boyfriends, that they take equal roles. Men are no longer taking care of women, sometimes we are taking care of each other, sometimes we take care of YOU.

So stop trying to be "supermom" YOU ARE EXHAUSTED all of the time. Sit back, relax, and ask for help---it's okay, you deserve it, girlfriend.