6 things never to say to a SINGLE woman over 35

6 THINGS NEVER TO SAY TO A SINGLE WOMAN OVER 35

1. “You’ll find someone”

It’s interesting…..married women automatically assume that single women in her late twenties or early thirties are actively seeking for a future husband. Maybe they enjoy being single, maybe they don’t believe in marriages and are just living life, maybe they don’t want babies…did you ever think of that? …..The only time you should say “You’ll find someone” to a single woman is if she laments to you that she can’t find anyone. Never, ever, assume that just because a woman is single and is in her thirties that she is actively looking. NOT NECESSARILY TRUE, and some may deem this offensive. Your intentions are clearly nice, but women can be easily offended by this.

2. “You look beautiful…...for your age.”

When you add “for your age” to ANYTHING, it automatically makes that statement a negative one. Simple say “You are beautiful” and stop, said Sharon Stone, in an interview with Oprah in her Master Class series. No positive statement can be made when you add “for your age” to any compliment, as well intentioned as you meant it to be. So next time….smile, say “You are beautiful”.....and stop.

3. “So-and-So from Real Housewives had a baby at 52 years of age!!”

Lines like these, when unsolicited, just reminds the single woman that you notice she is getting old, and you are feeling sorry for her. Sure, you’re trying to be encouraging, but it simply works the opposite way. Don’t clip news of some 76 year old women who just had a baby from China and email it to her, either. These are not “encouraging” news, they are simply a reminder that she is single, and she is getting old.

4. Hey, why don’t we say hell with tradition and give Cousin Christy that bridal bouquet?

Believe it or not, it’s actually a touch degrading to be shoved front and center during a bridal bouquet toss because everyone there knows know much she “needs it”, as if getting that bouquet really brings luck to the next unmarried girl. It’s just magnifying the fact she is still single and unmarried, you might as well be broadcasting that with a microphone on loudspeakers.

5. “I hear Match.Com is a having a free-7-day-trial this weekend”

Seriously? This is almost as bad as setting someone up on a blind date and not tell them about it. If she want to go to Single’s night, or Match.com, or a Speed Dating event, she'll find her own way. she doesn't need you to tell her. Trust me, she knows they exist, and she knows where they are.

6. "I have this single guy friend....."

Let me stop you right there. NO THANKS. If she wants you to fix her up with your friend, she will ask. Don't offer. This offer seems too much like "charity", it also shows that you doesn't believe she can score a decent guy on her own. Also, unless asked for, do not set anyone on a blind date (and not tell them) ---EVER.